Love is Hard
Posted by Paul Hamilton on June 16th, 2009“Faith and love are often thought of as easy things to do, but they are not thought of in this way by those who put them into practice. As they are the only springs of obedience toward God and usefulness toward other people, so they are greatly opposed from within and from without.”
John Owen on Hebrews 6:10 (from abridged version)
Love is hard work– loving each other, selflessly loving our wives and families, loving the lost, loving our Lord, none of these are easy, and often it feels nearly impossible. Sometimes, our self-love is gratified by the good feelings and returned affections we experience when we love others. So, during those times loving seems easy, but doesn’t that have more to do with loving ourselves? That’s one love that is not hard.
But what about when our families are noisy and bothersome, what about when our fellow Christians are irritating and awkward, what about when God feels far away and when unbelievers act so offensively and so irritatingly… unbelieving? What about when there is no gratification to our self-love? Is there some trick? Is there someway to make it easy again? Nope, as Casey Kirkman exhorted us Sunday night: Hold Fast! This is the work of the Christian, this is the love that is demanded, this is the life to which we are called (Col 3: 14-17).
Hold fast to Christ. Keep going back, keep filling your mind with Him, with His work, with His love, with all He has done for you. Christ’s love is the foundation of absolutely everything we do, there is no short cut around it, no special program to make it easy, in fact it’s not supposed to be easy (Phil 1: 27-30) so don’t expect it to be! Expect to have to work at it, to struggle with it.
But God has not left us here alone to struggle against ourselves, our sin, and the world, God has been gracious to give us many things to help us along this Way. Perhaps it’s good to meditate on these truths so well known to us:
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God has given us His Holy Spirit! (John 14: 15-29 – These are awesome words)
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God has given us prayer and Christ to always be our mediator! (Heb. 4: 14-16)
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God has given us His Word. (2 Tim. 3: 16,17)
Love is hard, in fact love is war! This is not some sentimental mushy nothing! But it is emotional! Let us strive to keep stirring each other up to love! Let our hearts be enlivened. Let our wills be engaged. Let our imaginations be filled with the dreams of God’s kingdom and glory! Let us press on! Let us hold fast! Remember this is a fight, so don’t forget all the weapons God has given us to wage this war!
God bless you in the battle! The war is already won!